The Holidays can be particularly challenging for you if you are trans, Be certain that your resilience shines through. Your family may need ‘time to get it.’ During holidays you want to be treated like any other family member. You want your name and pronouns respected. You do not want your identity to become the ‘controversial dinner table topic’ during what should be a joyous time.
If your family is not accepting, the situation can be even more daunting. You face complex decisions. You may have to dress in a gender that is not you to eat Thanksgiving dinner with them. You must have the wrong name just to be allowed at the dinner table for Thanksgiving.
Tips for Trans
The family has a broad meaning. Before delving into the practicalities of holiday gatherings, defining what family truly means is crucial. For numerous queer and trans individuals, family extends beyond biological ties to include those we find in our community. Our chosen family, a pillar of support, consists of people who stand by us in tough times and those who care when no one else does.
As you decide how and where to spend the holidays, remember you have a choice. Often, your most significant family members are not those related by blood who may reject us; instead, our chosen family are those who love us. Celebrating the holidays with your chosen family can change the occasion into one of the most magical and joyous experiences.
Find supportive family members when traveling. That is fantastic if you are fortunate enough to have an entirely supportive family! Enjoy the festivities! Even an overly supportive family member can sometimes be a bit much.
If you are overwhelmed with your biological family, remember that there is always choices. Turn to another supportive family member. Take a brief walk. Play a video game. Visit a store. A supportive family can be a lifesaver. Enjoy them.
Show grace, but advocate for yourself. In today’s time, your family, especially cisgender your family is traditional, often struggle with things that are simple to you and your trans friends in everyday life. Families often struggle with pronouns and names on holidays.
Practice good judgment when it comes to navigating the questions and missteps.
Remember, there is a difference between someone who is trying and wants to understand. They may make mistakes, but they are open to learning and improving. In contrast, if a family member refuses to use your chosen name, you do not have to spend time with them. Feel free to correct family members who use the wrong name and pronouns.